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Friendship is a much needed escape

SJ is part of a local writers group in Senoia that meets the third Saturday of every month at 10 a.m. at the Senoia Library. You can also follow more of her writing at creativejuices-sjcox.tumblr.com.

Friendship is a funny thing. It’s probably the one thing we all take for granted in life. We all have them, and we all have a variety of different kinds. There are those who would call us friends that we don’t always considered to be the same, there are those that we consider to be only acquaintances, and then there are those we consider to be our best friends. Sometimes we even have varying degrees of best friends, depending where we are in life.
Even in lifelong friendships the dynamics sometimes change. I have several very good friends who have had children. I have chosen not to have children, and that definitely has changed the dynamic of our relationship. The old days have gone away, no more crazy nights out drinking until the wee hours of the morning or sitting on couches crying in to gallons of ice cream over men who have done us wrong. Though I have grown apart from my friends in those aspects of life, we still have things in common which will make our friendship last.
Since I have been dealing with a lot lately due to my back pain, I have secluded myself in my house. Most days I tend to just deal with the pain and carry on with my day as best I possibly can. Since it seems it has gotten no better, and the days just drag on full of pain and anguish, I was in desperate need of some much needed escape from my dreary life  so I called up one of my best friends and planned an escape. It wasn’t much, just a local hotel room and some pizza and wine coolers, but it was an escape for both of us for at least a night. She got away from her husband and kids, and I got away from my pain for a little while. We were able to laugh and lament over our sorrows and console each other. So even though we hadn’t seen each other in years, it was just what we both needed and being together was like no time had passed at all. I left there feeling loved and refreshed, ready to face my pain head on again.
I once read a book about the circle of friendship and its importance in our lives. The gist of the book stated that people come and go in our lives throughout the years. Some hold great importance, others are just people we meet in passing. The point was that each of our friendships comes into our lives for a reason, either because we need them at that very moment or they are there to form lasting bonds that will shape and mold us and be there whenever we need them. Just remember that no matter what type of friendships you have in life, they are there for a reason.